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Saturday, April 19, 2014

Q is for Quitting




How many of us have quit something because it was too hard? Or because it hurt us, either physically or emotionally? How many of us have quit something we enjoyed because we were told there was something wrong with us? How do we know when it's time to give up?

The answer to all of those questions is it's not. I've read and been told that there are no failures, only new expectations. Quitting and not trying are the only way you fail. Quitting is a sign of weakness.

Blah. Blah. Blah.

I've heard so many things against quitting that I've begun to tune them out. The problem is they're right, to a certain extent. Quitting something before you've really given it a chance is, in my eyes, the only failure there is. If things don't go your way, then find another way to make it happen. If you can't, then change your goal or actions to accommodate the new parameters of the situation.

That doesn't mean there aren't times when you shouldn't quit. Self harm is something that you should quit. Harming others to make yourself feel better is something that should be quit. You should quit abusing someone. These it's not a failure to quit but a necessity. Though with these, a lot of it comes down to perception, a sense of worth, and the willingness to make the changes.

If you want something, don't quit. Find a way to make it work. If you absolutely can't, shift your view until you find what is working and follow that. Follow the positives. Follow the accomplishments. Look on the positive side of things and find reasons not to quit.

8 comments:

  1. The trouble is, people hear "quit" and they think you're giving up something important. Sometimes you have to quit because you're hurting yourself. Maybe you really are just too "weak" to handle it. Or maybe something is just way harder than it should be.

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    1. I agree. I suppose I'm being pressed into not looking at it like I'm quitting something, but I'm looking for an opportunity for something new. My husband has a very interesting view on life.

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  2. I agree that quitting isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes, it's very good. It all depends on the situation and how you look at it.

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    1. Very true. I think I need to talk to my husband. It's his perspective that this is written under and I think he's getting to me.

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  3. The others are right, quitting isn't always a bad thing. It's knowing when to quit and when to throw in the towel that's key... and usually really hard. :)

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    1. That it is. I think I either quit too easily or hang on until I'm hurt so bad I want to quit everything. That's my biggest weakness.

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  4. I get so frustrated with quitters. I'm a very "see it to the end" kind of person.

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    1. Like the others have said, there are some times when you have to quit. But you need to make sure you've gone as far as you can go.

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